Are you a piece of art because I’d like to nail you up against a wall
seeing someone from school in public
i accept high fives only on my ass
and a nice firm handshake around my throat
"Yeah I’m on your chair. Whatchu gon do bout it bitch"
Most girls are relentlessly told that we will be treated how we demand to be treated. If we want respect, we must respect ourselves.
This does three things. Firstly, it gets men off the hook for being held accountable for how they treat women. And secondly, it makes women feel that the mistreatment and sometimes outright violence they face due to their gender is primarily their fault. And thirdly, it positions women to be unable to speak out against sexism because we are made to believe any sexism we experience would not have happened if we had done something differently.
I cannot demand a man to respect me. No more than I can demand that anybody do anything. I can ask men to be nice to me. But chances are if I even have to ask he does not care to be nice. I can express displeasure when I’m not being respected. But that doesn’t solve the issue that I was disrespected in the first place.
I can choose to not deal with a man once he proves to be disrespectful and/or sexist. But even that does not solve the initial problem of the fact that I had to experience being disrespected in the first place.
As a young girl, I wish that instead of being told that I needed to demand respect from men that I had been told that when I am not respected by men that it’s his fault and not mine. But that would require that we quit having numerous arbitrary standards for what it means to be a “respectable” woman. It would mean that I am not judged as deserving violence based on how I speak, what I wear, what I do, and who I am."excerpt from “FYI, I Cannot “Demand” Respect From Men so Stop Telling Me That!" @ One Black Girl. Many Words. (via fajazo)
My friends went out to state to college and they experience the worst racism.
We aren’t used to it because where we lived it wasn’t a problem.
My high school was the most diverse high school in the city we had every race you would think of.
So until my friends went out of state…
Even when I think Urban Outfitters couldn’t possibly disappoint me any further, boy do they prove me wrong (time and time again).
"Face Gems"? Really? I believe you mean “bindi”. Did you not learn your lesson after the Navajo lawsuit? ~Keep your hands off things that aren’t yours, culture vulture~
(The models don’t even appear to be South Asian, you aren’t even TRYING to be slightly sensitive.)
This same company has made headlines numerous times within the past couple years for having an “Obama/black” t-shirt color option, t-shirts reading “Eat Less”, and shirts displaying patches that clearly resemble the patches worn on the clothing of Jewish people during the Holocaust. All the while, a simple shirt proclaiming “Legalize gay marriage” got pulled from stores. Additionally, they steal ideas from independent designers who have fought tooth and nail to have their products produced and sold, only to get ripped off.
***Please, please, please do not give this company your money. Literally everything they sell can be found in other stores, and usually for half the price.***